They way she treats me, is it okay?

I can see only one solution and that is to get away from your family or they will destroy your self esteem, your relationship and you will begin to think you are crazy. I come from experience. i was the shy one, let family or anyone walk all over me. i have changed a lot with age. I speak my mind. The hard part with my is my health became bad and I had to go on SSD which required some help from mom. She throws it in my face, cuts me down, and yes accuses me of being on drugs, the only drugs I am on is the ones prescribed by my Doctor. I am the black sheep. I became suicidal, then something happened, I got angry and decided that her money was not worth the emotional abuse i had to take. I had a brain aneurysm removed a year ago, I had to show her paperwork I was not lying. That hurt. I have lost all respect for most of my family that lie, abuse and want to make someone Me their scapegoat so they do not have to take a look at their defects which are many. It gets lonely at times. She still helps me out financially for one reason, it would look bad for her to let her physically ill daughter be homeless and what would the neighbors think. She has lots of money and helping me has not changed her lifestyle in any way. I am tired of feeling guilty al the time. I told her either help or don't yet I am done taking all the lies and abuse from them. She thinks giving me money is love so i understand what you are saying, she could not even stay with me for 3 days after brain surgery (she is 10 minutes away) because it was inconvenient for her. She wanted me to pack up my two cats, two parrots and stay at her house after having my brain opened up 3 days prior. I could barely walk and was still dazed a bit. Money doesn't buy emotional support, I would rather have a poor family that was loving and stuck together than a mom that gives me a check and says see you of course with a rude comment. I never in my life remember ever getting one compliment from any of my family.Why would you boyfriend be hurt, It is not his family is it? They might be manipulating him to keep control of you and they are using money, so as scary as it is go out on your own and say F ....... their money it is tearing you up. Good Luck My friends are my support group, though it still gets lonely. I have 2 boys which she has tried to turn against me luckily they are starting to see how she really is. I do not understand controlling cruel family like mine or yours yet for your own future family, someone has to break the cycle of the mental abuse and it sounds like you are the chosen one. In many ways it makes you STRONGER then any of them, for that is a hard think to do, I know, so pat yourself on the back for not buying into their sick behavior and having some heart. Good Luck. Run as fast as you can. If it is that hurtful then being aways from them is not going to make a difference for you say you don't feel any closeness anyway, so make them face the truth and break the bonds until they can treat you with some respect, that may never happen, I have finally faced my family will not ever change so I have to do what I need to to stop crying and feeling bad all the time. You can do it for they pain of being around them will become worse then not having them around. I waited until I was in my 50's to do something and so wish I would have broken away from their mental abuse years ago. So do it before it is too late.